So…why? Or rather, Y. Yes, Y— as in the Y chromosome. It’s a curious little bit of stuff, this Y. Among the 46 chromosomes that make up the human genome (half from mum, half from dad), the Y is the one that tips the biological scale toward maleness. Everyone gets 23 pairs of chromosomes, and one of those pairs determines biological sex. If you get two X-shaped chromosomes, you’re assigned female. If you get one X and one Y — voilà, you’re assigned male.
This system has been understood for about six decades now. Of course, like most things in genetics, it’s more nuanced than the tidy XX/XY binary. But for simplicity’s sake, let’s stick with the basics for now.
Now, the Y chromosome? It’s a bit of an odd one. It’s tiny — like really tiny. While the X chromosome boasts around a thousand genes, the Y scrapes by with just 27. It’s like a cluttered storage room of genetic leftovers: repeated sequences, flipped-around genes and fragments of ancient viruses that no longer serve a purpose.
But…nestled in that molecular genetic mishmash is one crucial element: the SRY gene — short for “sex-determining region Y.” This is the switch that sets the body on a path toward developing male characteristics.
Despite it being a veritable gene desert, the Y chromosome gets the job done. We see it in the boys and young men around us, with all the traits and behaviours that come with growing up male. Science tells us that biology does play a role in shaping behaviour — differences in hormones and brain development can influence how boys and girls act, even from a young age. But culture plays a big part as well. Society tends to steer boys toward competition and risk-taking, while girls are often nudged toward empathy and collaboration.
Still…the most important thing we know from early childhood research is this: all children’s brains — regardless of their chromosomes — are incredibly adaptable. They’re shaped by the environments they grow up in. What every child needs, whether XX or XY, is a stable, loving and supportive foundation. That’s what sets them up best for whatever lies ahead.
No doubt the saying “it takes a village to raise a child” is known to many. The proverb is attributed to African cultures and while there has been research, there’s no single attribution. It embodies the spirit of several African peoples. In East Africa they say “Omwana takulila nju emoi”, “A child does not grow up only in a single home.” While in West Africa the saying goes “Omwana taba womoi,” “A child belongs not to one parent or home.”
On Thursday evening here on the Hill we celebrated Dads and Lads, a time for our young men to interact with significant male role models in their lives, dads or stepdads or grandads. In an evening of enthusiastic competition and questionable point giving, relationships are strengthened and bonds cemented.
For dads and mums and friends, caregivers and teachers and role models in general, there are a few rules to maximise young people’s development as balanced and well-adjusted individuals.
- Encourage them to explore and pursue their passions
- Listen to their opinions and stories without judging
- Provide insight when asked/needed
- Remind them that they are not alone
- Help them explore their future options
- Teach and model social skills, coping skills, self-care, gratitude and more
- Keep judgment and negativity out of conversations
- Encourage vulnerability and healthy emotional practices
Here on the Hill all you need do is take a good look around and it’s obvious that “Y” not “why” — well actually so does “why” just on a different level — determines much of what we do. Nevertheless, at Eddies the importance of community can’t be underestimated. We are the Eddies Team; this is our “village”. Each one of us provides their input into creating an environment where our young men can succeed. We guide them and support them, each in our own way. We will help them find their way through the challenging (for all of us) years of adolescence so they can develop to their full potential, eventually to leave the “village” and be independent of us.
Exams and Assessment
Conscious that these next weeks will be full of assessment, study blocks and mock exams, for some of our young men this may be stressful. Here are 5 easy tips for them to sail the last stretch before September holidays without too much anxiety.
- Study smarter - Pomodoro Technique: Break study time into 25-minute blocks with 5-minute breaks. After four blocks, take a longer break (15–30 minutes). This helps stay focused without burning out.
Why it works: It reduces procrastination and improves concentration — great for juggling multiple subjects.
Something to try: There are free apps Apple and Android Apps to help time.
2. Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PMR) Before Bed: Before sleep or during a study break, tense and relax different muscle groups (e.g., clench fists, then release). This helps calm the body and mind.
Why it works: lowers physical symptoms of stress common before exams like tight shoulders or racing heart.
Something to try: Search “PMR for teens” on YouTube or Spotify for guided audio.
3. Create a Pre-Exam Ritual: Do something simple and consistent before each exam — like packing a school bag the night before, stretching or listening to a calming song.
Why it works: Rituals give the brain a sense of control and reduce anxiety.
Something to try: Choose a “focus song” or a short breathing routine to repeat before each exam.
4. Use Active Recall and Spaced Repetition: Instead of rereading notes, self-quiz or teach someone else. Spread revision over days or weeks instead of cramming.
Why it works: These methods boost memory and reduce panic the night before exams.
Something to try: Using flashcards and reviewing them regularly.
5. Reframe Stress with a Growth Mindset: Instead of thinking “I’m bad at Maths,” try “I’m learning to get better at Maths.” Focus on effort and progress, not perfection.
Why it works: A growth mindset helps bounce back from setbacks and stay motivated.
Something to try: Write down one thing improved on each week — even small wins count!
Welcome Year 5 and 7 2026
Here on the Hill, we were delighted today, to welcome students and families to our Orientation Day for Year 5 and 7 2026.
The day commenced with quick assemblies. Then it was on to lessons, activities and a taste of what life here at Eddies is like day to day. I look forward to partnering with our new families and working with our young men as they travel their Eddies journey.
